Choices

My oldest is playing tball right now. I have a new decision to make. I have spent the last 4 years teaching this child to say please, thank you, and allow others to go before her. I'm big on manners. I must say that sometimes she remembers to use those manners. Okay, she really is a polite and nice child. Now we are playing tball. Yesterday the ball would come to her, and another team mate would steal the ball from her. She is not as fast or as aggressive as others. So, do I teach her to stand her ground and fight for the ball or walk away and try to forget it? She was so frustrated yesterday that she started to cry. I tried to tell her last night to tell her coach that she was frustrated and ask for help. Again, I don't want to her to tattle, but I don't want her to be a door mat. On the other hand that girl is tough. She got hit in the chest with the ball yesterday. I heard the sound from the impact, but she didn't cry. I tried to give her a hug, but she told me that she didn't need one. I replied that I needed one, so she gave me one to make me feel better.